Hold my Callused Hands
I’m gonna turn 22 this year, and it seems that relationships - the falling in and out of it - seems to be on the lips of every person around me these days. One topic that will always come up will be love, and the notions of it.
After weaving and out of these talks, i’ve come to realise, more fully, that one really needs to come fully into himself, before committing to a long term relationship. One thing i do not not stand for are relationships made out of fun, flings and fantasies, because hearts are real, and it is not all that easy to mend them.
In life, one really needs to learn about his strengths and his weaknesses, his special qualities (the things that make you who you are) and what he’s made of. The most crucial part is one working on and settling his/her achilles’ heel. I believe that everyone has a major flaw that haunts him/her for pretty much his/her entire life - it could be unforgiveness in the past that still creeps into the present often enough, huge emotional dependency issues, pride that cripples one’s vision, etc. In Christianity, this is the very piece of ourselves that the devil attacks, especially since therein lies our calling.
If we do not deal with our achilles’ heel/s, whereby we do not learn how to manage it properly, we will bring such baggage into our relationships, and everybody then suffers for it.
Yes, we’re supposed to share weal and woe, and grow in this journey that is life, but i firmly believe that one truly needs to learn about oneself, and what it truly means to be single, before one is ready to learn how to hold someone else’s hand.
