“I believe, however, that pitches are won — and people are willing to follow you — not because you’ve twisted someone’s arm, but because people see that you understand them, that you’ve applied the time and the sensitivity to do so, and that you possess a special gift that can help them reach their heart’s desire. And that, my friends, is priceless.”
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This is from an article written by Kevin Allen, the mastermind behind Mastercard’s ‘Priceless’ ad campaign. Don’t you think that this ‘Pitch Theory’ applies to how we should treat our relationships in life?
We win people over only when we take the “time” and are “sensitive” enough to understand where they are coming from. It’s so much easier to judge them through our own (tainted) lenses and twist their arm, in order to get our own way, but this will never be the way to win the ‘Relationship Pitch’.
I also believe that when you win people over, and you get to enjoy a meaningful and deeply impactful relationship - this is truly priceless. You cannot seemingly put a price on these life-giving relationships.
I’m gonna turn 22 this year, and it seems that relationships - the falling in and out of it - seems to be on the lips of every person around me these days. One topic that will always come up will be love, and the notions of it.
After weaving and out of these talks, i’ve come to realise, more fully, that one really needs to come fully into himself, before committing to a long term relationship. One thing i do not not stand for are relationships made out of fun, flings and fantasies, because hearts are real, and it is not all that easy to mend them.
In life, one really needs to learn about his strengths and his weaknesses, his special qualities (the things that make you who you are) and what he’s made of. The most crucial part is one working on and settling his/her achilles’ heel. I believe that everyone has a major flaw that haunts him/her for pretty much his/her entire life - it could be unforgiveness in the past that still creeps into the present often enough, huge emotional dependency issues, pride that cripples one’s vision, etc. In Christianity, this is the very piece of ourselves that the devil attacks, especially since therein lies our calling.
If we do not deal with our achilles’ heel/s, whereby we do not learn how to manage it properly, we will bring such baggage into our relationships, and everybody then suffers for it.
Yes, we’re supposed to share weal and woe, and grow in this journey that is life, but i firmly believe that one truly needs to learn about oneself, and what it truly means to be single, before one is ready to learn how to hold someone else’s hand.
i hope that one day, i’ll never need to find new books to read, new songs to sing, new places to discover, because meeting you everyday will be one of wide-eyed adventure, where you make everything new - fresh, like drawing the curtains on a bright sunday morning.
